Dear bloggie,
Recently, i came across one of my old friend's blog and she mentioned about her being wrong/doing the wrong things in friendships in the past. That really got me thinking.. as i believe everyone of us, to be frank did something that we would regret or simply wished that we could take back the nasty things we said or did. Well, i believe that once i was that kind of person as well and therefore.. perhaps or even maybe, i shouldn't be blaming them for what they did to me. But somehow the term of 'forgive and forget' seems alot easier said than done. Sometimes you tend to forgive but you'll never forget as it will always be there to serve as a reminder to yourself that you need to prevent the same thing from happening again or in another words, you're just trying to protect yourself from getting hurt again and i mean really deep cut hurt,scar,wound or whatever you people call it and not just plain hurt. Seriously, i really don't know what i really should do now. I need so guidance or perhaps some advice from those who had been through what i'm currently going through now. To you people, i mean you-guys-know-who-you-are.. i'm not sure if anyone of you read my blog but just wanted to say that whatever issues that happen between all of us, i'm not trying to say/prove that it's not my fault or that i didn't anything bad/nasty about you people.. but all i wanted was just a little respect.
Hippo, if you happen to read this.. please give me some advise. I'm going nuts again. o_O
Till then, keep on bibu bibu-ing people and have a nice day!
p/s: Good friends are hard to find and true friends are even harder to find. So if anyone of you people out there who had found your true friend or who had a bunch of good friends, stick close to them and cherish them. =)
Recently, i came across one of my old friend's blog and she mentioned about her being wrong/doing the wrong things in friendships in the past. That really got me thinking.. as i believe everyone of us, to be frank did something that we would regret or simply wished that we could take back the nasty things we said or did. Well, i believe that once i was that kind of person as well and therefore.. perhaps or even maybe, i shouldn't be blaming them for what they did to me. But somehow the term of 'forgive and forget' seems alot easier said than done. Sometimes you tend to forgive but you'll never forget as it will always be there to serve as a reminder to yourself that you need to prevent the same thing from happening again or in another words, you're just trying to protect yourself from getting hurt again and i mean really deep cut hurt,scar,wound or whatever you people call it and not just plain hurt. Seriously, i really don't know what i really should do now. I need so guidance or perhaps some advice from those who had been through what i'm currently going through now. To you people, i mean you-guys-know-who-you-are.. i'm not sure if anyone of you read my blog but just wanted to say that whatever issues that happen between all of us, i'm not trying to say/prove that it's not my fault or that i didn't anything bad/nasty about you people.. but all i wanted was just a little respect.
Hippo, if you happen to read this.. please give me some advise. I'm going nuts again. o_O
Till then, keep on bibu bibu-ing people and have a nice day!
p/s: Good friends are hard to find and true friends are even harder to find. So if anyone of you people out there who had found your true friend or who had a bunch of good friends, stick close to them and cherish them. =)
12 bibu-ers:
"i shouldnt be blaming them for what they did to me"
i think if u realised that u are wrong for being that "kind of person" in the past, you already hav the right to argue/be sad/disappointed with them (instead of blaming)..hehe..
then, if u still treasure ur friendship between them, u should forgive urself 1st and forgive them, forget ur sadness/disappointment or whatever is it. Juz start over again, refresh a little n be a better person...but remember u must do whatever that is right: like when u r not respected or u are innocent, u must always argue with them in order to protect ur own dignity.
and sorry, i dont really know exactly ur situation right now...so, juz to give some opinions and thought. hope its help. and yes, true friend is hard to find. so, gambateh...
Been thru similiar situation rite nw o perhaps shud said tat i'm learning fr wat happening on me rite nw...
Everyone deserve 2nd chance...v all r learing fr our mistake 4 d rest of our life..wat's more important is v realise our fault n willing 2 change 4 d best...
Since u hav realised tat u shudn't b tat kind of person den u wil definitely knw wat's d best way2 handle ur situation..jz follow ur heart gal..Best wishes4 u...
Well,thgs seem easier 4 me 2 say:P
Trust me i knw exactly d pain u described yet v cant jz blame them entirely..
take tis as part of our lesson2 b a better person,probably shud thks them 4 giving u d opportunity 2 learn fr ur mistake,rite?
But bear in mind tat same mistake could onli happen once...so,let's us appreciate tis precious lesson instead of regretting of wat had already happened...let's hope v both cn thru tis....
pang| thanks for your point of view.. but to start all over again with them is kinda impossible.. and whenever i defend myself, they said that im being sensitive over it.. so sigh.. it's hard pang.. =(
anonymous| thanks for dropping by my blog and giving me your point of view.. i've learned from my mistake and am trying to be a better friend.. but before this and even now, i feel like im not being treated as a friend by them.. more like a person for them to pick on and etc.. sigh very long and old story anyway.. but thanks again ya =)..
true, is hard i know. in the past, when i tried to defend myself, my friends will said i am being stubborn. so, there is no room 4 me 2 say anything. but, i think in the group, there is a leader: when she bully me and others will follow. so, one day i wake up and became very aggresive to defend myself with one girl coz she was simply too much plus i cant stand it anymore. that time in my mind, i really dont care losing a friend like her: argue/quarrel until teacher and whole class know. but however, after a periods, the others began to know me n respect me and nw we are good friends. but..emm..it is old story ady ar? then try dont think about it anymore lo...hehe...
i see.. thanks for sharing with me your experience pang.. really appreciate it.. yeah am trying but it still kinda bothers me and i dont know why.. maybe it's because that for so many years i have been in that group.. so kinda not getting used to it.. but on the hand, i dont think i can stand it either.. sigh.. help pang!
U r welcome!!
Spaggeti is my favourite!!But never try spaggeti with mushroom soup,nice? ;p
Seems like u get over wit ur fren's issue dy...
Anyway jz choose d path tat u fil right n enjoy it :)
anonymous| hehe it's really nice, you should try it with your friends as well =).. well, this group of friends are my friends from uni.. i really enjoy being around them and i feel comfortable with them.. i really wanna thank them for always being there for me.. the group of friends that i mentioned in my previous post (friends) is my another group of friends which i have known for a very long time.. i've actually chosen my path, but somehow i feel that i might be making a big mistake.. so that's why im so confused.. anyway anonymous, what is your name? i feel that is not nice calling you or refering you as anonymous.. hehe.. hope that you dont mind mind letting me know your name.. =)
porky!
we chatted quite a lot this afternoon.. hmmm..
well... after listening to ur stuff here... i feel... u got ur own right to choose ur own path... it doesn't seem good to play the guessing game in friendships. What matter is trust and be truthful:)
i believe, there're many many friends out there for u.. stretching their arms for u..
so... don't worry so much. U'll be jz fine...
sometimes, life is like that... it's hard to make a decision. So.. once u make it, believe ur instinct and jz go with it. U'll be fine. ^^
and... most importantly, u won't feel insecured with it... rite? i mean, when ppl don't click, they jz DON'T click. So.... don't force urself into things u don't like. U won't be happy everyday.
No worries! We'll be here for u!
*hugz*
hehe yeah hippo, we talked about soon many things that afternoon.. really thanks alot for listening and for sharing with me your point of views.. i just hope that i wont be feeling as bad/insecure as i do now for making that decision in time to come.. hehe yeah, sometimes i do wonder.. what makes people click with each other? hehe.. thanks hippo for everything, i really appreciate it! =) *hugs*
Hihi...anonymous here,jz cal me Lynne..
Perhaps i may come out wit a post in english 1 day,u r welcome2 drop by den ;>
Good day..
lynne| it's really good to have finally know who you are or what your name is =).. really thanks alot for dropping by my blog though i dont think that we know each other in person.. mind if i ask how you got to know about my blog? hehehe yeah maybe you should, then i can read your blog as well =).. have a nice day ya lynne and nice to meet you =)!
It jz happen so coincidently..i guess,i din reali recall how i got2 knw ur blog dy :P
i drop u a comment at d 1st place as i sort of encounter similiar situation as urs but mine hav ntg2 do wit fren issue..
Hav been an avid blog reader but never tot i'll come out wit my own blog...but d impossible wil alwiz change at d end of d day,rite? hahaha...
jz create my own blog written in mandarin...perhaps 1 day i'll hav a english version as well,who knw? hehe ;>
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